it doesn't sound like you're fully confident its the right course of action ... if you need to get drunk to do it, that probably tells you a story too. Perhaps find someone who isn't connected to either of you first ... if it works, great. if it doesn't, it doesn't make it awkward.
You have a good point. I do and don't. Maybe get in the mood by having a few drinks as my husband says I should. I just don't want this to let into other things with her and I told him this and says it won't.